Love is great... until it ends unexpectedly. When your boyfriend first breaks up with you, it may seem like the whole world is crashing down. It might seem like nothing else matters: family, work, school - it's all for nothing because you can't be with the guy you love. And as you dwell upon the break up, the relationship you had with your ex becomes more and more important to you. . . until it consumes your every thought. If this has happened to you, you'll need to know how to get over your ex-boyfriend. Allowing the abrupt end of your relationship to consume your life is definitely NOT an option. Only by moving forward without looking back can you feel better about yourself, your situation, and your future without him.
Learning how to cope with a break up is a skill we all need to acquire, because rejection is unfortunately a part of life.
Step 1: Moving Past The Relationship The first thing to do after your boyfriend breaks up with you is to accept it. "Fighting for your relationship" - at least right now - simply isn't an option. Your ex made a decision and he's going to stick to it, and you're only going to humiliate yourself by begging, pleading, and trying to keep your romance alive. Don't bring yourself to that level, as it will only make you feel worse and destroy any respect your ex still has for you.
Step 2: Break All Contact With Your Exboyfriend Many women will try to stay friends with an ex boyfriend in the hopes that he'll eventually take them back. This is actually one of the worst things you can do. Either you'll fall into the "friend zone" where you become nothing but your ex's platonic pal, or your ex may exploit the fact that you still love him and use you to fulfill his needs. Both of these scenarios are NOT something you want right now. Breaking contact with your ex is the only move you should be making at this time. If you want to get over your exboyfriend, you need to stop calling him, emailing back and forth, text-messaging, and writing on each other's Facebook wall. Pull the plug on all of that stuff, and your heart will heal ten times faster than if you're still poking around to find out what he's been doing.
Step 3: Eliminate Reminders of Your Ex The next thing to do: eliminate all reminders of your past history together. This is a painful move, and it's often hard to pack up those cherished photos of the two of you enjoying your relationship. Still, in order to move on and get over your exboyfriend, you need to get all that stuff out of sight and out of mind. This isn't to say that you need to throw those things in the garbage. You still have feelings for your ex and those objects are all sentimental to you. So instead of chucking them out, put all your ex boyfriends photos, CD's, T-Shirts, and any of those stuffed animals or gifts he gave you into one single box... then tape the box shut, shove it into the far corner of the attic, and rest easy knowing it's still there - but that you don't have to look at it anymore.
Step 4: Get Out and Do Things For Yourself There are two VERY quick ways to get over your exboyfriend. The first is to date other people. The very second you go out with someone else you're interested in and kiss him? Thoughts of your ex boyfriend will quickly melt away. The second is to surround yourself with people who can help you get your mind off the break up. Go out with friends, see new places, and do lots of fun things together. And when your friends aren't around, don't just sit at home feeling sorry for yourself... grab family members and take them out too. The more you can get out of the house, the faster you can get over your ex.
What To Do If You Want Your Ex-boyfriend Back In some cases, you might feel like your relationship is too valuable to let go. You'll want to save it rather than put it in a box and shove it off to the side. So if your ex-boyfriend dumped you and you still want him back? You'll need to know how to go about reversing the break up. Getting your boyfriend back is easier than you think, regardless of how the break up happened. Even in the most hopeless situation, there are things you can do that will make your ex want you again. Learning the methods and techniques that will reverse his current thinking and bring your ex back into the mindset of wanting to date you again can go a long way toward repairing your romance.
Learning how to cope with a break up is a skill we all need to acquire, because rejection is unfortunately a part of life.
Step 1: Moving Past The Relationship The first thing to do after your boyfriend breaks up with you is to accept it. "Fighting for your relationship" - at least right now - simply isn't an option. Your ex made a decision and he's going to stick to it, and you're only going to humiliate yourself by begging, pleading, and trying to keep your romance alive. Don't bring yourself to that level, as it will only make you feel worse and destroy any respect your ex still has for you.
Step 2: Break All Contact With Your Exboyfriend Many women will try to stay friends with an ex boyfriend in the hopes that he'll eventually take them back. This is actually one of the worst things you can do. Either you'll fall into the "friend zone" where you become nothing but your ex's platonic pal, or your ex may exploit the fact that you still love him and use you to fulfill his needs. Both of these scenarios are NOT something you want right now. Breaking contact with your ex is the only move you should be making at this time. If you want to get over your exboyfriend, you need to stop calling him, emailing back and forth, text-messaging, and writing on each other's Facebook wall. Pull the plug on all of that stuff, and your heart will heal ten times faster than if you're still poking around to find out what he's been doing.
Step 3: Eliminate Reminders of Your Ex The next thing to do: eliminate all reminders of your past history together. This is a painful move, and it's often hard to pack up those cherished photos of the two of you enjoying your relationship. Still, in order to move on and get over your exboyfriend, you need to get all that stuff out of sight and out of mind. This isn't to say that you need to throw those things in the garbage. You still have feelings for your ex and those objects are all sentimental to you. So instead of chucking them out, put all your ex boyfriends photos, CD's, T-Shirts, and any of those stuffed animals or gifts he gave you into one single box... then tape the box shut, shove it into the far corner of the attic, and rest easy knowing it's still there - but that you don't have to look at it anymore.
Step 4: Get Out and Do Things For Yourself There are two VERY quick ways to get over your exboyfriend. The first is to date other people. The very second you go out with someone else you're interested in and kiss him? Thoughts of your ex boyfriend will quickly melt away. The second is to surround yourself with people who can help you get your mind off the break up. Go out with friends, see new places, and do lots of fun things together. And when your friends aren't around, don't just sit at home feeling sorry for yourself... grab family members and take them out too. The more you can get out of the house, the faster you can get over your ex.
What To Do If You Want Your Ex-boyfriend Back In some cases, you might feel like your relationship is too valuable to let go. You'll want to save it rather than put it in a box and shove it off to the side. So if your ex-boyfriend dumped you and you still want him back? You'll need to know how to go about reversing the break up. Getting your boyfriend back is easier than you think, regardless of how the break up happened. Even in the most hopeless situation, there are things you can do that will make your ex want you again. Learning the methods and techniques that will reverse his current thinking and bring your ex back into the mindset of wanting to date you again can go a long way toward repairing your romance.
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